Living on Purpose

Thought: The process of thinking, serious consideration, reasoning power, opinion and belief.

So what are your thoughts saying to you?

I dare suggest that almost everything each of us has or has not accomplished is a result of our thinking.

In the past couple of months, my schedule has been extremely busy, with several writing projects, training events, travel, my company operations, my school board responsibilities, and my family, too. I could tell that the pace—fast and faster—was starting to lower my energy levels, which in turn was causing my thoughts to become less positive and results-orientated than normal.

I was surprised at the way my thoughts shifted from my usual approach of working to achieve my goals to: Wow! This is a lot of work! Will we ever get it done?!

My overall circumstances had not changed―nor had my capabilities. Only my thought process had changed. Our thoughts really do create our reality and end up producing our level of success.

Your thoughts literally convert into energy in your physical mind and body. If you doubt that, what do you think a polygraph is measuring? It shows your internal response (energy) to specific questions. This same thought energy that a polygraph can measure is also creating your personal success blueprint.

How do you frame failure and success? Most of our thought patterns have simply become habitual and many of them are destructive. This was proved in a 25-year research study conducted by Dr. Martin Seligman and documented in his book, Learned Optimism. His research proved that the way we think about our failures and our successes directly impacts our future achievement levels.

The Crime Scene Investigation (CSI) TV series is one of the most popular. Why? Individuals seem to be intrigued by the process and science of discovery and investigation. So put on your CSI hat and let’s investigate your thought and language patterns and let’s we can crack your case.

The research revealed that the way you think about your wins and positive events and about your loses and negative events are equally important. Life is not just about overcoming failure. Do you own and take credit for your wins?

To break the bondage of our habits, first we need to become aware of how our thoughts and our language can and are hindering our success. Three key concepts apply to two focus points (positive and negative) to make up our investigation grid.

The three key thought elements―permanence, pervasiveness, and personalization―apply in opposite ways, depending on whether the event is positive or negative.

I will outline the research to enable you to determine if you have success or failure blueprint/thought patterns.

Positive-Event Success Thinking

When a positive event occurs, the most successful individuals respond and think in this way.

Example: A sales rep has a record month, with double her normal sales. Which response matches someone who is thinking like a successful individual?

In training sessions, I have had individuals state they were simply telling the truth when they answered a or b. But, of course, most successful individuals responded with c. They took credit for the win and expected their success to continue, no matter what.

Martin’s research confirmed those responses.

How would you normally respond to success?

Negative-Event Success Thinking

When a negative event occurs, the most successful individuals think and respond in this way.

Example: A manager has had three new hires quit this month. Which response matches someone who is thinking like a successful individual?

The statement chosen by the person who thinks like a successful individual is b.

Obviously much more research can be covered, but that will get you started. The way you respond to both positive and negative events HIGHLY influences your levels of success. In many cases, your thoughts―especially in business, sales, and people-driven responsibilities―are much more important than your IQ, intelligence, or competency level.

It is clear that confidence and/or your Self-Worth levels are critical to your overall success. The way you think and feel about events is the starting point of almost all your results. To assist you in confirming your confidence levels, consider completing our online Self-Worth Inventory. This assessment will enable you to identify the areas where you have already high self-worth and where you could improve.

You are your thoughts, so why not make sure your thoughts are benefiting you?!

Do you acknowledge that your thoughts highly influence your results?
If you want to change your results, you need to change your thinking.
Do you want different results than you are getting now? If Yes, what?
Your success is influenced equally by the way you think about positive and negative events.
How do you respond to positive events?
Successful individuals feel positive events are permanent and universal (that it applies to their whole life) and that they have personally contributed to the success. For less successful individuals, the opposite is true: They feel the success is short-lived, specific to that event, and they had little to do with it.
How do you respond to negative events?
Successful individuals feel a negative event is temporary, specific to that event and that external factors caused it. Pessimistic individuals feel the negative event is permanent, universal, and internal―or their fault.
Using this framework, start paying close attention to your thoughts toward both negative and positive events. Think about how you might change/improve your response level.
Complete the Self-Worth Inventory to confirm how you feel about yourself and to confirm your confidence level in five important areas of your life. This is critical to implementing a more optimistic thought process.
Give the new attitude time to settle because, for many people, this new approach to thinking means unlearning a lifetime of negative programming. If you beat yourself up over not learning this new way fast enough, you have just been negative!
This is a very powerful process. I encourage you to stay the course. It is worth it!